We see too often in the headlines of the media that another victim of violence has died or has been seriously injured at the hands of their partner, or someone they have dated even for a short time. It is a difficult complex dynamic within these relationships, and it is often misunderstood by those that have never been subjected too or witnessed this kind of control (physical, emotional, verbal, financial, social).

Often if they confide in their friends/family comments such as ‘just leave’ are offered. This is unfortunately not that easy, victims of violence feel trapped whether they do or do not have children, and they often fear for their lives and have been belittled for so long they fear they can’t survive on their own or that their perpetrator will take everything, which is exactly what they are told.

The Duluth Model is a representation of the types of Power and Control that people are subjected to in these relationships. The relationships don’t start off in this manner but they happen in small indiscreet issues and once the person has been trapped and are in what we know as the ‘trauma bond’ they feel confused and unsure of themselves.

If you or someone you know has been subjected to these behaviours, please reach out and seek help from someone you trust or someone who is recommended. We have appointments available for emergencies, please reach out.